Been a long time

I just want to apologize about the amount of time it has taken me to post a new blog. Been going through a lot lately. Shit has been really stressing me the fuck out and its been hard to concentrate. But that is no excuse. Writing every day is as much good for me as it is for you.

Wanted to give some advice to young fathers today. This is what has been on my mind as of late. There are many single mom's out there with absentee fathers not handling their responsibilities. If you are a man who is there for your children and is making sure you provide for them to the best of your abilities. Well then by all means you should be applauded.

Single mothers are probably the backbone of this Nation. Our next president (go Obhama!) was raised by a single mom. Just to show you the power a woman has. But this is not to take any light away from dads. If you are a dad, married, engaged, common law marriage or just waking up every morning and praying for strength not to kill your son's or daughter's mother then this is for you.

1. Remember you are not a mom. You can never be a woman nor should you try to compete with one in the parenting department. You are a dad. Do dad stuff. Don't EVER compare yourself to mommy. Not a fair comparison.

2. help out. Be as big a part of the child birthing process as you can. You can't push the baby out but you can encourage her. She is scared shitless dude....so even though you are to, you got to remain cool.

3. keep cool. Emotions are a sumabitch! and when they are on high with a woman Lord WATCH OUT. but you got to remain level headed and remember what she is going through. and not all the time is her negative energy directed towards you more so just the situation (it is temporary)

4. You will mess up. No one is perfect and you aren't going to mess up your child for the rest of their lives. Child are pretty strong and resilient. They bounce back really quickly. So if you are trying your best then you are doing a great job. Alawys ask for help. It does take a village.

5. Be you. Becoming a father doesn't mean you think different. Just gives you different things to think about. So if you are someone who likes going to the movies or listening to Tupac. Once you have a child that doesn't change. Just got to listen to 'Pac with headphones while the baby is sleeping rather than blasting it like you used to.

6. Communicate. The biggest hurdle you may face as a dad is actually the relationship with the other parent. As a rule kids pretty much adore you for no reason, just because of who you are. But being a dad can become a nightmare if you are competing with mom or vice versa. Parenting is not a contestt, its a partnership. You have to give a little and she has to as well. If not it will create a tension that is very much not necessary or condusive to good parenting.

*climbing down off soapbox*